Jetting will have no effect on carb sync.
First thing for me to clarify, though, which carb are you calling #3?
Carb #1 is under your clutch hand, carb #4 is under your throttle hand.
The same one it should be--as you've described below
Because #3 is the one to which the cable is attached, you can not simply adjust it to match the others.
It is the "master carb" and all the other carbs get adjusted to it.
I foolishly tried to turn down the other carbs by keeping their butterflies more closed than #3's as I grew more frustrated
That is actually one of the very FEW uses for a golf tee.
Yes, #2 vacuum port is plugged by the tee
This also sort of answers my question above, as a non-plugged vacuum port would show low on #2
That is actually at the high end of the factory-recommended setting, most of us do it much closer to idle, where it really matters.
2000 was an easy to identify point while making adjustments
And, ... what "other screw"?
The other screw is the carb's butterfly's adjustment. The one that is locked in place with a nut. I've circled the ones I would adjust, in green, below.
Mixture setting has no effect on carb sync.
Neither a stuck slide, nor a hole in the diaphragm will have any effect on carb sync.
True enough, but they don't lift at all at idle speeds.
Riding Again, your apparent inability to change your vacuum settings makes me wonder, ... are you adjusting the correct screws?
The correct screws are the THREE that are BETWEEN the carbs, not ON them. Start with the screw between carbs #2 and #3. Loosen the locknut, move the screw, snug the locknut back into place. You should see your vacuum change immediately. Don't worry about what #1 and #4 are doing, just concern yourself with #2 and #3 for now. Once those two match, check the relationship between #1 and #2. The factory manual says that #1 should be just a little bit higher than #2, probably just a little more than your original illustration shows. After #2 and #1 are set, move to #4, set it just a bit higher than #3, mirroring the settings of #2 and #1.
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